Judging & True Beauty

so people who know me for the most part know that I be writing and I enjoy writing but I write about different things than most people do...  I try to impact peoples life in a positige manner thru my writing so here we go...
With beauty and the terms similiar to it there is so much more to a person being beautiful. like how can I say this to make people understand it completely?  yes you have the obvious outer looks the shell of a human. what they wear and their face and body type. things like that but as we age that slowly starts to fade. or after having a kid in a woman's case her looks might fade from that but that's really just a shell from where true beauty comes from. true beauty comes from a person's soul and heart. so when looking for your partner don't judge on what you see on the outside so much.  get to know that person so you can truly judge them correctly.  and yes I said judge I wont sit here and say don't judge cause as humans we judge automatically.  we judge even when we call someone cute or pretty or handsome or fine. if you judge someone too quick without knowing them then how can you truly say if they are an ugly person cause we all have our ugly sides so whos to say your beauty is better when you bleed red just like that person? it seems that today in our society judging and beauty go hand in hand if you want people to be nice and caring and have your back and be there for you keep in mind that you have to be the same way with them if they don't judge you then don't judge them and if you don't judge them right away you might see just how beautiful they truly are.
- Jason Matthew Graham

WHY

Why do anything at all anymore? I mean when everyone has things that make them feel more pain than they want to more pain than anyone should be feeling at such ages. or the stress i mean dont get me started on that, so why? why get up everyday? why help people out? why be friendly? why smile? why love? even after being hurt so many times? why keep living after being depressed every single day? why have fun when loved ones are dead? well let me ask you this single question: why not? Why not be happy? why not keep looking for someone who will treat you right? why not keep smiling and being happy? when your loved ones would want you too? why not keep living when your dealing with depression? why not just be human for once? we are all human, we are going to feel things we dont want to. we are going to question the existence of our lives, but at the end of the day the one question we need to ask is why not get up tomorrow morning and keep smiling and laughing and loving? we do this out of necessity for human interaction. it is hardwired into our brain to survive and to keep living. so while you want to ask questions start looking for different questions to ask. not everything has to be so negative sometimes all it takes is to think of something in a positive light and you can change your whole day around by being more optimistic. For all those who have been hurt repeatedly in relationship after relationship. instead of asking yourself whats wrong with yourself ask yourself this why not keep trying? not all men are that immature. If you deal with depression instead of asking why are you even still alive, ask yourself why not smile today? why keep questioning everyone else and not even question yourself on how your doing things. all i am saying is to be brave and to rethink whats going on

Be A Positive Light

So ive been inactive on here but i got something to say... How many people truly get bullied? And how come they never speak out about it? Well society has made it ok to where people can be bullied and we dont believe it so ina sense we have allowed it to go on for so long that we have come to expect it. We have made a statement saying that we dont care if people get bullied. Well im saying its not ok and if your truly with me then you will start standing up for people. You will start checking people about how they treat people. You will start being friends with the people no one likes even if you care about your public image because your public image isnt always gonna stay the same its always going to change so start now and make it a good public image by standing up to bullying. Be BULLY FREE!!!! Be an example people look up to cause you dont allow people to be hurt by others choices, by showing people that your someone they can trust and go to for help, someone that people dont fear will hurt them more. The new years coming up set a goal that youll help 5 people out and be their friend thats my challenge for everyone this coming new year be a positive beacon and lead people to happiness.
-Bully Free

would you still

i blame myself yet idk if its me to blame everyday i struggle with it more and more i put on a different face but the cracks grow everyday. i wonder if i wouldnt have been trying to show you all the stupid shit of my life and kept you free of it would shit have turned out differently and ik its wrong to try to find a way to make me feel like it wasnt my fault but i still cant help wonder if i stopped my stupid ass shit i was doing and finally admitted it wasnt worth it and did better would you have been here to laugh at the near misses we had and getting ready to make a better world together but i do know this can you forgive me for my part of the grand scheme of things can you tell me it wasnt my fault can you give me one last day of joking around being care free? could you forgive me for not being a better friend and a better man? could you just say you happy and whole and pain free? this is the guilt with which i deal everyday can i ever make it up to you and will you allow me rest in peace bro knowing i trade my life for yours ina single second causw you truly were the better person in every aspect and you should be here alive where you loved ones deserve you to be and i derserve the fate that got you but should have took me instead i hope you know i will always carry my guilt and wish it would have been me instead.
-rip bro you shouldnt have been taken early your life was worth way more and i wish i could swap places so you could be here laughing and smiling with those who need and want you and deserve to have you have back

What's Your Purpose:

How many of us have wondered why we are on this planet? How many of us have wondered why we live the life we live? How many of us have just wondered why? How many of us have wondered is this all life is? How many of us are just drifting? What even is life? Well to me just thinking about all of this is enough to leave someone dazed and confused so then what are we suppose to do ? our lives are set before we know for example like when we choose to do something our parents tell us not to do or like stepping on the grass when theres a sign that says stay off the grass we know we arent suppose to do it but yet we do we have made that choice to do that even before we realize it cause the end outcome is we did it regardless life is just a person drifting thru an endless period of time set up for them dealing with the consequences of the actions and choices and making choices and going on with those choices and decisions its an endless cycle so why do people regret doing something if you did it be proud cause you are living your life.  I mean i can tie it into this if someone is bullying you why get down? why feel like your worthless? why feed into what they want? its what they are made to do in their life so keep living yours and dont worry bout them now yea this sounds contradicting but its tricky yea you may say you have a choice to feel the emotions you feel but you dont they are self governed but you can alter your feeling and how they respond to how the rest of you life is so dont let your emotions dictate your life cause they arent what does your choices and actions now you can choose to let your emotions run your life but its not how your life is made so if someone is bullying you dont let your emotions dictate how your life is set up cause they are just a consequence not a choice so choose to say something back dont be timid dont be shy dont be scared. your life is yours so take it into your hands and choose to not be put down and run by people then see where your life takes you no ones set up to be perfect no ones set up as a god i mean if you were you wouldnt be walking around in this shit hole of an earth we all bleed the same so run your life find your purpose by branching out and seeing how different decisions work cause if its your purpose it will feel natural and it will come like youve done it all your life your purpose is preset so follow your purpose. also the things you do doesnt define you how you respond and act to the things and saying that people will throw at you does and how well you can handle criticism does. no one is set do go thru life the same way but the end outcome is death for everyone so why live with regrets live free in all aspects and see how much life gets show someone that doesnt like you or bullies you a side they dont know stand up for yourselves and see how they react and see how you feel from doing that.

Cheating.

whats the point of cheating ? like in all honestly what do you gain from it ? like you have a girl so why do you need another one ? why do you need more why do you have such a high value for lusting after women ? like if your girl is right by your side thru everything why would you put her thru everything that she doesnt needa go thru ? and ik i cheated once never again i saw how it shattered another human being and i just cant live with myself after that kinda shit and i still think bout how no matter what excuse i can think of it still doesnt make it right like i notice alota guys have some extremely gorgeous women and they cheat ? like how can you throw a diamond into a lake and walk back out of it with a rock thats all misshaped and disfigured from all the rounds all the guys have made with her ? why would you go to that girl when you know what shes bout and your girl told you she doesnt want you to talk to her i mean after a while people we have to start growing up after a while your gonna start getting to the age where you wanna settle down with a girl and start a family and turn her into your wife and alota guys dont realize how they have a keeper until its too late how they have a girl who will go thru hell and back with them and still stay by their side and be ready for hell to be over and come out on top of it like is it that hard to swallow your pride and know when your wrong i mean i hate having to admit when im wrong but if its for the better then why not swallow your pride and make shit right ? why not just let it go and accept that your girl is gonna be there for you more than your hoomeboys i mean ik too many guys who snitch a brother out to them to save their own ass but if your girls down and wont do that shit then why trade her for someone who wont even stay around after you all done fucking ? like is this society and generation that fucked up ? or are we just to scared to actually be true men and know when we fucked up and try and move on from the shit ?

Insecurity:

The definition of insecurity is: uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence.

That is one of the many things that teenagers face everyday, down to the simplest things as a guy getting up the courage to talk to a girl or a girl getting up the courage to talk to a guy.  Courage is something that can hurt ones life or help ones life, insecurity is the same way.  You can be insecure about loosing your boyfriend/girlfriend so in return you do everything in your power to keep them, but the catch is for it to work is they have to feel the same way and be the same way.  People think that insecurity is an ugly thing and something that is bad but even insecurity has beauty to it too.  The beauty in it is how you have so many fears and problems "insecurities" and you know that you do and you can accept them you can face them and make them known, you recognize them, you work on them, and you fight them daily.  You make people feel wanted, you make people feel loved, you make people know that you can't go a day without them.  Insecurity among the many problems people have with themselves has beauty along with many wonders if you can get over it.  It's not going to be easy but with the right person you can do it, and when you do things will go far, fast, and good for you.